What Money Really Is: An Amplifier & Lubricant

Originally published by Krystal Trammell on Steemit

Money is not evil, it’s not corruption, and it’s not actually something that changes people.

Money is simply a CURRENCY–like water in a stream.

It flows with ease and gentleness wherever it’s not blocked off.

It can also rush through like a torrent of destruction, tearing apart the landscape around it with zero remorse.


(Some folks have more pebbles in their pond than others, and MANY have boulders and sediment that have diverted the flow for generations…)

It can shape beautiful and grand landscapes….over time.

But wait–how can money be an AMPLIFIER?

If you are one of those who think that, “If only I had more money, I would….”

  • eat healthier!
  • do yoga every morning!
  • donate to charities!
  • feed the hungry!
  • treat my family better!

You are lying to yourself, dear one.

The fact is, having more money will not magically give you the devotion or commitment to practice yoga or feed the hungry.

If you can make excuses about how it’s too hard to live up to your values now, what exactly will change about your core character once you’re wealthy?

Nothing. The answer is NOTHING.

You’ll be the same you, with perhaps different excuses.

(So many people fear the true answer to this question, and so they subconsciously prefer to stay broke!)

Having more money will simply make it more obvious to yourSelf and to others, that you are someone who says he or she wants things….but isn’t willing to work toward them.

If you’re not committed to being the best version of yourSelf NOW, with whatever meager resources you have, money will not buy you commitment, fortitude, or ethics.

Money will amplify the traits of Who You Already Are.

If you’re afraid of money changing you into a terrible person, it means that you’re still afraid of fully facing the shadow-aspects of yourself.

Money is one of the best and most potent tools for personal growth–it pushes all our buttons, both in having it and NOT having it.

If someone seems to become an asshole after hitting the lottery–the truth is this:

He was always an asshole, but his lack of wealth meant he was compelled to hide it better.

Which brings me to my next point–money is a LUBRICANT.

We live in a society that is pay-to-play. For better or worse, almost every public space is accompanied by the expectation that you’re to spend money there in order to exist.

If you’re lacking in the department of financial bandwidth, simply paying your basic living expenses can feel like getting fucked in the a$$.

However, money is a fantastic lubricant for when you want to smooth things out.

Money makes things easier, whether that’s having enough food to eat, or being able to use $10 for valet parking at a swanky event you’d otherwise be late to.

Some people seem to think that it’s good karma to let life fuck them repeatedly…to stay poor and play small–to stay away from too much “dirty money”.

However, it’s obvious that if you have a fervent desire to help the poor or save the whales–you’ll be able to do exponentially more good if you have $10K to spare, versus $10 to your name.

Also–it’s time to put in a little #selflove plug right here–because I can promise you that you will NOT help anybody, in any way, by living a life that makes you miserable.

It’s not shameful to want more than just “enough”–so actually embrace your desires.

Remember the thing I said about living your values, tho?

Just like surface tension between water molecules in a flowing stream–money likes to stick to itself.

Even if you only have $10 to spare, choose to align yourself to your values NOW, with whatever amount of money you have.

You’re sending out a beacon–a massive solar flare–to the universe, saying:

“THIS is Who I Am, and this is who I commit to be.”

“This is the path I choose to walk, regardless of how much or how little material wealth I currently possess.”

Choosing to align to your highest values is like exercising a muscle. You build strength of character over time.

You can’t take the shortcut of throwing money at your problems…for it will only AMPLIFY them.

One more thing about money….

Money flows where your attention goes.

So what are you paying attention to? (Pun intended)

Watch your thoughts….for they become your destiny.

Why I LEFT Young Living Essential Oils – The Truth Is Out

This may come as a shock, but as of August 2017, I’ve cancelled my membership with Young Living.

The evidence just keeps mounting against Young Living as a company. I’m embarrassed and saddened that I promoted their products for over 3 years.

Please allow me to explain why…

(This will take a few minutes to do it justice…bear with me)

Young Living’s oils have been transformational in our lives and health. I still believe that Young Living’s oils are better than grocery-store or discount oils…but they’ve broken my trust, and there’s no coming back from that.

I no longer believe Young Living’s oils to be the best on the market. It’s come to light that they’re NOT as committed to sustainable and ethical practices as they claim to be.

I’ve personally always felt a nagging suspicion that there’s been something “off” about their products and company. Call it intuition (I unwisely ignored it).

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Can you Unschool a Toddler?

Is unschooling just for younger kids?

It might seem that way to some folks.. There’s lots of people I meet who have a toddler and an infant, or perhaps a 3.5 yr old child, who are interested in unschooling–which is fantastic!

I’m always really glad to see parents of younger kids who are already questioning the status quo.

Maybe they’re even ruffling a few feathers in their social circles because their kiddo’s not on a waitlist for daycare, or registered for soccer, ballet, and three other kinds of lessons/classes/activities.

I think many folks approach unschooling from the attachment parenting perspective, where you’re listening to your child’s cues and looking for opportunities to invite them to try new things, instead of forcing independence on them like a shoe that doesn’t quite fit yet.

I’ve seen parents of 18-month olds saying, we’re unschooling!

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that one time I thought I’d get to be homeschooled.

I remember asking my parents about how many years I would have to go to school.  

They were always reticent to answer…saying that after elementary school was middle school, and then more levels of school–junior high, highschool, etc.  I felt so frustrated, and so eager to grow up and call my own shots properly.

I must have pestered them pretty hard about it, because they told me all kids had to go to school, that not going to school was illegal and they’d get thrown in jail, end of story.

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why there aren’t more lifelong unschoolers.

Where are the lifelong unschoolers? Why don’t we see more teen unschoolers?  What happens to all the unschooling communities, where the groups of little kids far outnumber the lifelong unschoolers in the group? If it works so well, why aren’t more people doing it for longer?

Every fall, it seems that in the whirlwind that is public schooling, a few more brave souls are swept up into it…either because of pressures from concerned (possibly meddling) family and friends, financial stresses, lack of adequate #childcare, or just#overwhelm.

Our tribes are so diffuse, our individual resources are concentrated in ways that do not support us in doing what we believe is best for our individual children. Continue reading

Unschooling Is…

This post is about unschooling, which is not to be confused with;

  1. how to pleasantly coerce your child to do schoolwork
  2. how to get your kids to do schoolwork on their own
  3. how to make schoolwork more fun

It IS about unpacking our beliefs about how learning happens, what’s good for kids and adults, and what’s really important in our lives as parents who want to raise happy, functional adults.

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Unschooled 6 Year Old Writes Poetry

My now-teenage daughter wrote this when she was 6, almost two years before she knew how to read.

Invented spelling is a THING, y’all.

This child is growing up to have impeccable grammar and spelling, and reads and writes more prolifically (and with more enjoyment) than any schooled child I’ve met.  She has yet to have a single grammar or spelling lesson. Continue reading

On College and Worthlessness (2008 musings)

I wrote this in Fall of 2008, when I was in college, and still believed that college was a worthwhile pursuit.  Also, I had an aversion to capitalizing anything back then.  #sorrynotsorry

college is where people go to find themselves. discover things they are passionate about. learn about the things they are interested it, learn about What they are interested in…

it’s sad that college has devolved into almost a bare necessity for anyone who wants to make above minimum wage.

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Fireflies & Freedom

I love that my daughter can catch fireflies barefoot in our yard.unschooling freedom fireflies krystal trammell

No worries about tests or grades, no cares about what day it is, no needing to rush thru an exploratory afternoon-turned-evening to get ready for school tomorrow..

My children are learning organically, realistically, without arbitrary force or pressures in their worlds. Instead of memorizing math facts and war dates, they’re learning the rhythms of nature. They are increasingly able to notice the turning of the seasons, the blooming of the spring flowers turning to seed, the timing of the fireflies’ moments of dance. Continue reading

That time I came out of the broom closet…

Written the first day of June 2006…

my spirituality….is nothing to fear or worry about, isn’t dangerous or something to protect yourself from, and yet, it’s apparently very misunderstood by most people.

I didn’t “convert” to Paganism. Paganism isn’t something that people convert to, and Pagans certainly don’t try to proselytize or evangelize.

You “become” Pagan when you decide that the things you already believe and intuitively know/feel are reflected in a Pagan worldview, and so then you use the word “Pagan” as a description of what you already are inside.

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