Parents, Unschooling, and Emotional Healing

On sharing space with your parents, as an unschooling parent:

For many years, even into adulthood, I was consumed by the desire to escape, to run away. I didn’t want my kids to have a close relationship with my parents. I didn’t feel like my parents and unschooling “got along” – they valued obedience and control, not freedom.

My dad was “not nice”, while my mom would “nice you to death” in order to make sure you felt pressured enough to follow their lead. They shared their opinions as if they were facts.

I have come to realize that my parents had real trouble seeing and interacting with me, as opposed to the idea of me that they had fabricated in their minds.

When people say they have experienced abuse, I think we think that’s a clear-cut concept, but nothing could be more complex. Did they hit you with solid objects? Abuse. Did they scream at you and shame you and tell you what you were feeling wasn’t true or real? Abuse.

BUT–did they also read you bedtime stories every night, cook you healthy meals, and tuck you in with your favorite blanket, freshly warmed up from the dryer when you were sick?

Did they go out of their way to bring you sour candies and fancy drink parasols from their work lunches? Did they sit down and dig through the Lego box with you, take an interest in your artwork, and remember that your favorite popsicles were the Blue Bell green ones?

See, it’s complicated.

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what do unshcoolers believe

What Do Unschoolers Believe? Unschooling, Defined.

Unschooling, defined? How we’re different:

Unschoolers believe similar broad concepts about the nature of children and of learning, that set us slightly apart from other people. There are plenty of unschoolers who may disagree on some of the finer points, but the core beliefs are, in my opinion, fairly common ground:

Unschoolers believe strongly in the innate capabilities and curiosity of the human spirit from birth.

Firstly, we do not see children as inferior to adults (that’s adultism, FYI).

We strive to treat people of all ages as primarily competent, well-intentioned individuals who possess sufficient internal motivation and drive to learn and grow throughout life.

In short, unschoolers believe positive, life-affirming things about human nature, and we have (or cultivate) a large amount of trust in our children as people.

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why I almost didn't join dōTERRA

Why I almost didn’t join dōTERRA

Why I almost didn’t join dōTERRA

Wow, what a ride it’s been.

Over the past 9 months (!), I have unraveled the deceptive practices of one essential oils company and researched a ton of other ones.

I almost didn’t join dōTERRA, and I was even ready to toss out the entire MLM concept altogether.

Only recently did I came to a decision I feel fully at peace with!

Where it all started…

Back in December 2017, I wrote an article on my relatively new and quiet website, explaining why I decided to leave the essential oils company I’d wholeheartedly invested in for the past three years.

The article was more of a document for myself than anything. I was wholly unprepared for the huge response that my heartfelt sharing would generate!

I was simply writing an explanation for my downline, and also to make sense of the betrayal and frustration I felt. Continue reading