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Unschooling When You’re Not Okay

Today I’m sharing my thoughts on continuing to unschool when you’re not okay – through depression, grief, and other emotional upheaval. I started writing this nearly ten years ago, reflecting on a time 5+ years before that…when I was deeply apathetic and miserable, and not yet aware that I was experiencing psychological abuse from those closest to me. 

I started unschooling when my kids were 4 and 1 – and I was 22.

I didn’t learn about attachment parenting and never even considered unschooling until I had my second child.

I have to wholeheartedly agree with parenting expert and unschooling mom Laurie A Couture, when she says that unschooling is a natural extension of attachment parenting.

Unschooling is more than a parenting style, it’s simply the natural way of relating to human children, from birth onward, into what most people call the “school years”.

However, a good education arguably needs to go beyond just survival. When I was struggling with depression, grief, and other challenges…were my kids thriving back then?

Well, they were fed and safe, and their most basic needs were met, but we weren’t really living a rich, full life together. I wasn’t capable of following their interests much, because I just didn’t have the bandwidth, the finances, the stability…

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