How I learned I wasn’t an introvert: Healing Social Trauma and Building Community A big focus of my 30s has been dedicated to healing social trauma in myself. I used to think I was an introvert, or anti-social…later I thought, maybe I’ve got Asperger’s? (Maybe I do.) Now, I realize that I’m healing from social… Continue reading How I learned I wasn’t an Introvert: Healing Social Trauma and Building Community
Before we begin, I’d like to remark that it is 2018 in the most information-saturated society in the history of the known world. I can’t believe we still need to have this conversation. However, new studies show that the more frequently children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy their parents; experience anti-social… Continue reading The Problem with “I Was Spanked and I’m Fine”
Are you feeling curious about unschooling and whether it might work for your family? Wondering how to apply the principles of cooperative parenting with your kids? I’ve definitely been there! My oldest child is now 18, and we’ve been working toward mutually respectful and cooperative relationships for a long time. I first learned about gentle parenting… Continue reading Unschooling & Parenting Respectfully – Without Feeling Like a Martyr
This article is also posted on theHomestead.Guru, under the title, Why You Should Say NO More Often and Give Fewer Fucks For many years, I thought that it was my responsibility, my duty, to deep-dive into the most terrible and baffling things, in some mad hope of understanding them in order to transmute them–to bring about… Continue reading Why I don’t owe you an explanation of my NO.
On sharing space with your parents, as an unschooling parent: For many years, even into adulthood, I was consumed by the desire to escape, to run away. I didn’t want my kids to have a close relationship with my parents. I didn’t feel like my parents and unschooling “got along” – they valued obedience and control,… Continue reading Parents, Unschooling, and Emotional Healing
Where are the lifelong unschoolers? Why don’t we see more teen unschoolers? What happens to all the unschooling communities, where the groups of little kids far outnumber the lifelong unschoolers in the group? If it works so well, why aren’t more people doing it for longer? Every fall, it seems that in the whirlwind that… Continue reading why there aren’t more lifelong unschoolers.
So it’s the holiday season, which highlights yet another way that I tend to differ dramatically from the average human being. We’re not a Christian family, and yet not really a secular one either. I’ve never encouraged my kids to believe in Santa, which tends to get a lot of raised eyebrows. However, this year,… Continue reading Cracked Christmases of the Past
In loving memory of Emma Louise Davis (Balog) – 9/3/1940 – 1/19/2011 My mama turned 41 the year I was born. I was her only child, and she doted on me better and more than any June Cleaver or Mama Berenstein Bear ever could have. She was a homebody, and tho she’d never admit to… Continue reading My Mother: As Well As I Knew Her
Did you ever set yourself up for failure or sadness – without even being aware of it? That’s what I almost did this holiday season. Truth be told, I thought I’d have a pretty sad holiday this year. My husband just started a new job, which is a huge blessing, except for one thing…He’ll be… Continue reading Holiday Blessings, Gratitude, and Perspective
Gentle discipline. That sounds pretty progressive, right? Not spanking or hitting children IS still a pretty progressive concept in our society (unfortunately). In my opinion, it’s disheartening that we’re still not collectively as a culture at the place where hitting kids is just accepted as absurd, archaic, and wrong for any reason… But I digress.… Continue reading Why You Should Quit Punishing Your Kids