I wrote this about a year ago (in 2012), at the end of one of my more zealous attempts at “traditional” homeschooling.
>> I got divorced back in 2007, when I had just two children–but it took me many years….YEARS…to feel safe enough and strong enough to raise my two older children in the ways that I knew were right for them, without the influence of their dad.
I was so worried, for so long, that my ex would somehow interfere and make our lives hell. I no longer live with that kind of fear.
I found it amusing and wonderful to realize how far we’ve come since then.
So at the moment, shocking as it sounds, we are taking a much-needed respite from all things “schooley”.
Several weeks ago, I managed to have what I considered an uncommonly good, productive, well-rounded week–but by the end, the kids were fighting, cranky, and acting like next Monday’s lessons were so abhorrent as to have already ruined their weekend.
One of Charlotte Mason’s key concepts was that of Habit Training. (For the uninitiated, here’s a brief concept overview)
I’m quite sure we don’t do this in the way that other, more religious/conservative homeschoolers might–but the core concept of habit training drives home the point that time spent on learning is about more than facts and figures, handwriting, and memorization.
It’s about the cultivation of our minds, and the growth and development of our relationships. We are not raising children, but adults–and so when confronted with a problem, be it burnout, or something more simple or serious, I try to co-create solutions with my children, instead of against them.