enneagram levels of development, and types' social roles
part 6 of 9
The levels of development within the Enneagram help to describe the degree that we identify with our personalities.
It can be very enlightening to read about the different behavior styles and habits of people of your type at different levels of development, because a high-functioning, balanced individual will behave drastically different than a troubled, reactive, out-of-power individual--even of the same type.
This can help to identify common red flags of behavior or feelings that indicate when you may need help to pull out of an unhealthy state. Of course, moods affect your awareness somewhat, but there is a range of functional behavior at which we tend to stay, and this is what the levels are concerned with.
Wake-up calls--the sign that we are identifying too closely with our ego:
For each Type, as follows:
Type 1: Feeling a personal obligation to fix everything themselves
2: Believing that they must do everything for others to win them over
3: Driving themselves for status and attention
4: Holding on to and intensifying feelings with the imagination
5: Withdrawing from reality into and mental worlds
6: Becoming dependant on something outside the self for guidance
7: Feeling that something better is available elsewhere
8: Feeling that they must struggle to make things happen
9: Accommodating themselves to the desires of others
The Red Flag - Our most dominant fear surfacing (unhealthy/dangerous levels):
The One will start to fear that their ideals are actually all wrong.
The Two will fear that they are driving their loved ones away.
The Three will fear that they are a failure or fraud.
The Four will fear that they are ruining their life and wasting their opportunities.
The Five will fear that they are never going to find a place in the world/with others.
The Six will fear that their own actions actually harmed their security.
The Seven will fear that their actions are bringing them pain/unhappiness.
The Eight will fear that others are turning against them and will revolt.
The Nine will fear that they will be forced by reality to deal with their problems.
The Social Role - How we manipulate others:
The following can be used as "signposts", telling us when we are falling into old patterns and "doing our Type" instead of living freely and expansively.
We can choose to change our behavior and move forward upon recognition of these self-serving behaviors…
Type 1: By insisting that others share their high standards
2: By soliciting others’ needs and desires, creating dependency
3: By adopting whatever image will charm others
4: By being temperamental towards others
5: By staying preoccupied and emotionally detached
6: By complaining, thus testing others’ commitment to them
7: By distracting others, and insisting that their demands are met
8: By dominating others, and demanding compliance
9: By “checking out” and passive-aggressively resisting others