nobody can empower you - you've gotta do it yourSelf
Please, be wary of anything that promises to sell or gift you “empowerment” - because it usually comes in exchange for accepting external conditions or input in your life.
The paradox of empowerment is that you might find inspiration or become motivated to seek it because of others - but nobody can empower you. It’s something you’ve got to strive for and discover on your own.
Human beings are not born broken - we’re inherently equipped with empathy, conscious choice, and intuitive wisdom.
We come with our own internal compass, a self-driven guidance system built in - and we have the free will to either follow it, or not.
Listening to our inner guidance is often tricky because it may conflict with others’ expectations … especially when we’re young.
Usually, we learn to ignore and silence it in favor of external pressures.
In this way, our inner guidance system may be conditioned to prioritize external pressures - sometimes to the extreme.
When we give our power away to external constructs … we come to believe we are powerless, untethered, and lost without others telling us what to do, think, and be.
We’re told we need a middleman to access empowerment—whether a doctor, a teacher, or a religious figure—but none of that is true.
There’s a massive difference between co-collaborating with others who will support you as a conscious, sovereign being … and giving your power away to self-proclaimed authorities who tell you that you need them in order to succeed (or survive).
A good teacher stokes the fire of curiosity, without telling you how or what you’re supposed to learn.
A good spiritual leader will never expect or demand loyalty.
A good doctor will encourage and empower you to heal…not become a dependent customer for life!
Every human on Earth, whether or not they know it, is massively powerful. Our natural state is to be sovereign over our own minds and bodies.
If someone or something outside of yourself can grant you “empowerment”, it implies that power was not yours to begin with, and that you need to ask for and receive permission to become empowered.
Of course, the truth is that we are all inherently powerful - whether or not we own it or choose to act accordingly!
Like a child learning how to walk or talk, we must tap into our own power and courage, on our own terms.
A parent can't "teach" a baby to walk before he's ready...and they'd have even less success "teaching" a baby to WANT to walk.
Our natural state is to be powerful, potent, and sovereign - all that remains is the conscious choice to take hold of it - to step forward, and own our power fully.
Self-empowerment recognizes that we are innately driven to seek our own enlightenment, to tap into our own confidence and inner knowing, without asking for permission or confirmation from anyone.
In this way, you activate the inherent power held within you all along, and are able to direct it consciously, for your benefit.
Only you can realize your own true nature as a powerful being!
So what do I mean, when I talk about “birth empowerment”?
To me, birth empowerment is the notion that the way in which we approach childbirth matters from a holistic perspective.
An empowered birth supports the idea that women's feelings and perceptions matter greatly and directly affect the birth outcome, and that conscious choices play a key role in helping women give birth in a way that is innately supoprtive of the humanity of both mother and baby.
I can offer you a cosmic map, plus loads of support and encouragement - but the journey from maiden to motherhood is yours alone.
Women have the right to freely make informed choices about their bodies, births, and babies - this shouldn't be a radical idea, but sadly, for many women, it's far from what they expect.
Too often in our society, we find ourselves submitting to the pressure of medical professionals who are trained to deal with pathology, and to protect—not YOU—but their medical license at all costs.
It's time for all that to change.
Any birth in which the mother is supported in making her own informed choices about the care of her body and baby can feel empowering.
My pregnancy and childbirth courses are designed to help mothers face and transcend their fears about birth, and to discover their own path toward conscious choice, freedom, and self-empowerment. (They’re also on sale thru the month of June 2022!)
Own your choices, empower yourSelf. No one else can do it for you!
Wishing you a beautiful, conscious birth.
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